What is so wrong with my style of parenting?
My friend is going through a rough divorce right now so she (and her 10 month old) is staying with us until she finds an apartment and a job. Her husband has had to say the complete opposite of everything she says. He finds something wrong with everything she does and now with what I do because I have been helping her out. He says he doesn’t want me watching their son because he doesn’t agree with my parenting.
I am not a conventional, mainstream parent. I follow my instincts when it comes to parenting, not because something is the latest fad.
I believe in bedsharing, especially if breastfeeding. We bedshare with our 19 month old. I love it and he loves it. My husband tolerates it. We all sleep better because of it. My little guy hasn’t been a “good” sleeper since the very beginning, but that’s just who he is. I do NOT belive in or endorse cry it out.
I believe in extended breastfeeding. I believe that breastfeeding is the best possible way to nourish your child (as I’ve said in previous posts). I also believe that the benefits extend far past the 6 months or a year that some pediatricians will tell you it does. The only reason my little guy is weaned from breastmilk is because my supply dried up when I became pregnant. I pumped milk for him until he was 16 months old though. I would have gone longer if I could.
I believe in selectively vaccinating or maybe not vaccinating at all. It’s not a blind decision. I have researched it quite a bit. It is a subject I will continue to research as there are more studies coming out all the time. My little guy had vaccines up until he was 6 months old. I decided definitely not to vaccinate for MMR, Chicken Pox, Flu, H1N1 and a few others that I can’t remember off the top of my head. With this new little one, I think I may wait until he/she is 2 years old before doing any vaccines. Evidence has shown their little bodies are better able to handle the vaccines at that point. I will still be selective though. I also believe that breastfeeding supports a healthy immune system and will help to keep my children protected.
I do not believe in circumsicion. I believe it is an unnecessary procedure. There is no medical reason to circumcise. It is all based on cosmetics and social and religious beliefs and acceptance. We were all born perfect just the way we are. Our bodies were made specifically. Each part serves a purpose. The foreskin is no different. If you’d like to read the research and facts behind it, check out www.savingpenises.org
I believe in babywearing. I believe it makes for a happier baby and happier parents. A baby just wants to be close to his/her mother. Babywearing allows that while also allowing a mother to the freedom to get things done by having her hands free. It promotes attachment which is essential to the development of a baby. From dependence breeds independence. If a child knows they will always have their rock(aka mom & dad) to lean on for support, they won’t be afraid to try new things and take risks(within reason of course).
I believe that cloth diapering is the better way over disposables. Granted lately, due to being pregnant, I have been using disposable. I have been trying to stick to more environmentally conscious choices with the disposables I choose.
I believe in natural, gentle discipline. I believe a child will get more out of guidance than fear based punishment. I want my children to understand why they shouldn’t do something, not just fear being punished.
I believe in homeschooling. I want my children to be able to think for themselves and not just become another sheep in the mind controlled flock.
Notice I say “I believe” at the beginning of all of my parenting choices. These are my opinions. I don’t try to force them on anyone. If someone asks me about something though, I will volunteer my opinions and the research behind them.
I really don’t understand what exactly he disagrees with. He won’t say specifically what. His response was simply everything on my Facebook page. I’m not a neglectful parent, I don’t spank my child. I try to present him with as many possibilities as I can to learn something new. Somehow though, this is unacceptable. I just don’t understand it.
I know I am sorta crunchy, but I am proud of that. It is who I am. I will never deny myself the right to be who I am.