Tag Archive | cosleeping

Sleep, or lack thereof

Sleeping Peanut

Sleeping Peanut

I miss sleeping. These last few months, yes months, have been lacking in the sleep department. Not that I was getting much to begin with, but it was more than I am getting now. First it was due to packing and then the actual moving and then the settling in.

These last few weeks Peanut has been teething so his sleep is off track. He nurses frequently at night for short periods. Just to soothe himself back to sleep. I don’t fully wake up, just enough help him latch, but it is still enough that I don’t feel rested. I have been falling asleep with Peanut at nap times which is fine, but I would much rather use that time to give Munchkin some one on one time. He really needs it right now. He has been all off kilter too. He hasn’t been wanting to go to sleep at night unless he can snuggle up in the big bed with Peanut and I. He has been waking at night and needing a snuggle. This means I have to get out of the bed and climb into his bed with him until he falls back to sleep. Sometimes though,  he wakes up quietly and he climbs into bed with us. This is usually not a very graceful procedure. I have to try to guide him to the opposite side of what Peanut is sleeping on. I end up not being able to move as result of this.  I am not sure exactly what is causing his waking, but I know it will pass. We have been through this many times before.

It seems as though I get one child sleeping, doze off and then the other one wakes up. The kiddos haven’t been completely settling down until sometime between 1 and 2am. I haven’t been going to bed until 3 am because I NEED at least an hour of quiet to myself to keep my sanity. Munchkin wakes up at 7/7:30am. Despite the fact that he has room full of toys across the hall with which he could entertain himself, he finds jumping up onto the bed, crawling on top of me and saying “Hi Baby” in a very loud voice at his brother, is the best way to tackle the morning. Peanut, who has been sleeping peacefully up until this point, is now wide awake. As soon as he sees his brother, a huge smile creeps onto his face and he starts squealing happily. He loves his brother very much. It’s not the worst way to wake in the morning, although Hubby I am sure would disagree. He fights it. He refuses to get up in the morning. He tells Munchkin to go play or go back to sleep, even though those “requests” haven’t worked the past 100 times. So, hubby rolls over and pulls the covers up to his ears in an attempt to avoid the whole situation. He does remarkably well at ignoring everyone and usually ends up snoring again. . . .Grrr. This. Irritates. The. Crap. Out . Of. Me. I handle all the night-time stuff, including when we are BOTH sitting on the couch trying to watch a movie. He goes to bed a few hours before me and then gets to sleep later han me. Hmph!

You really need to check out Amber Dusick’s illustrated blog. I saw it a few nights ago and burst out laughing because it is so my life. Especially this sleeping one.  http://www.amberdusick.com/woodmouse_loves_crafts/2011/06/what-it-is-like-to-not-sleep-at-night-illustrated-with-crappy-pictures.html (I can’t seem to make the link pretty. . . )

I can’t imagine how this would all be if we weren’t cosleeping/bed sharing. I probably wouldn’t be getting any sleep at all if I were running in between bedrooms. Hubby would surely be dreaming about cars or electronics or well, you know. . .

The Week in Review

This week has just been one of those weeks. It wasn’t particularly busy or stressful. I can’t even really remember what I did. I do know that I didn’t have much motivation for, well, much of anything.

I know that Monday the boys and I had our chiropractor appointment. I have been going weekly because I had a nerve that had gotten irritated during the birth of Peanut. That irritated nerve affected the big toe on my left foot. . . Yeah, I know, weird. It is much better now though. Almost 100%. This was the boys second time getting adjusted. Munchkin had a few minor things both times because of all his crazy activity; The basic running, jumping, falling, crashing into things. . .Peanut had a few minor things as well. His are mostly related to birth. Peanut also saw a craniosachral therapist from two weeks to eight weeks to fix his latch and help with reflux. Both the boys are really great for their adjustments.

Tuesday I had to bring the dog to the vet. He was due for a heartworm test so that I could get him more heartworm preventative. The vet gave me guff because I didn’t want to do any vaccines. His rabies is up-to-date, that’s the one I care about. I think our pets are as over vaccinated as we are, but that’s a discussion for another day.

Wednesday we went over to my sister, T’s, to celebrate our sister, K’s, birthday. K is the youngest. She just turned 23 on the 19th. Munchkin had a blast with T’s girlfriend’s two children. A boy, eight and a girl, six. They had a picnic dinner in the living room. Munchkin thought it would be a great idea to dip his watermelon in the ketchup. He didn’t eat very much. He did enjoy a piece of cake though.

Picnic dinner

Thursday, I did nothing. I took a nice nap with Peanut while my husband took Munchkin with him to run a few errands. I did clean some junk out of the bathroom. You know, the half empty bottles of shampoo, soaps, etc that I didn’t like. I also went through Munchkin’s toys and bagged up the ones he doesn’t really play with. I’ll be posting them on Freecycle.

Today, well I guess now I should say Friday since it is 1 am, I had a dermatology appointment. Got a few moles looked at, nothing major. Then I brought K up to our Aunt’s house so she can get her stuff together. She has a flight today (Saturday) back down to school. She needs to do an interview so that she can student teach in the fall.

Today, as in Saturday, the boys and I will go to a La Leche League meeting, head back to our aunt’s house and then drive K to the airport. I hate driving to the airport. I’ll have to do it again May 2nd to pick her up.

See, not really a very eventful week.
Through all of this, Munchkin is really going through an “I don’t want to go to bed ever” phase. Bedtime has gone from between 8pm and 9 pm to between 11pm and 12am. He has been staying up, in the room, playing with his toys. Eventually K or I have to go in and read him a few stories and then lie down with him. I don’t mind. I like getting in some one on one time with him. Its Peanut that I have to work around. Munchkin has also started putting some sentences together. I love that he is able to communicate more to us verbally now.

Snuggling

Peanut has been full of smiles and laughter. We don’t even have to work for them. He just volunteers them, until you try to record them. . .He is so much fun. Both of them are. Life would be empty without them.

Peanut in his Bumbo seat

Munchkin is in bed softly snoring. Peanut is in my arms nursing sleepily cooing and gurgling and now we are back to falling asleep nursing. Silly, cute little one. I am enjoying a cup of chamomile tea(a second one, the teabag split open the first time). So I will sign off for tonight. Thanks for reading my ramblings while I tried to get my week in order.

What is wrong with my parenting?

What is so wrong with my style of parenting?

My friend is going through a rough divorce right now so she  (and her 10 month old) is staying with us until she finds an apartment and a job. Her husband has had to say the complete opposite of everything she says. He finds something wrong with everything she does and now with what I do because I have been helping her out. He says he doesn’t want me watching their son because he doesn’t agree with my parenting.

I am not a conventional, mainstream parent. I follow my instincts when it comes to parenting, not because something is the latest fad.

I believe in bedsharing, especially if breastfeeding. We bedshare with our 19 month old. I love it and he loves it. My husband tolerates it. We all sleep better because of it. My little guy hasn’t been a “good” sleeper since the very beginning, but that’s just who he is. I do NOT belive in or endorse cry it out.

I believe in extended breastfeeding. I believe that breastfeeding is the best possible way to nourish your child (as I’ve said in previous posts). I also believe that the benefits extend far past the 6 months or  a year that some pediatricians will tell you it does.  The only reason my little guy is weaned from breastmilk is because my supply dried up when I became pregnant. I pumped milk for him until he was 16 months old though. I would have gone longer if I could.

I believe in selectively vaccinating or maybe not vaccinating at all. It’s not a blind decision. I have researched it quite a bit. It is a subject I will continue to research as there are more studies coming out all the time. My little guy had vaccines up until he was 6 months old. I decided definitely not to vaccinate for MMR, Chicken Pox, Flu, H1N1 and a few others that I can’t remember off the top of my head. With this new little one, I think I may wait until he/she is 2 years old before doing any vaccines. Evidence has shown their little bodies are better able to handle the vaccines at that point. I will still be selective though. I also believe that breastfeeding supports a healthy immune system and will help to keep my children protected.

I do not believe in circumsicion. I believe it is an unnecessary procedure. There is no medical reason to circumcise. It is all based on cosmetics and social and religious beliefs and acceptance. We were all born perfect just the way we are. Our bodies were made specifically. Each part serves a purpose. The foreskin is no different. If you’d like to read the research and facts behind it, check out www.savingpenises.org

I believe in babywearing. I believe it makes for a happier baby and happier parents. A baby just wants to be close to his/her mother. Babywearing allows that while also allowing a mother to the freedom to get things done by having her hands free. It promotes attachment which is essential to the development of a baby. From dependence breeds independence. If a child knows they will always have their rock(aka mom & dad) to lean on for support, they won’t be afraid to try new things and take risks(within reason of course).

I believe that cloth diapering is the better way over disposables. Granted lately, due to being pregnant, I have been using disposable. I have been trying to stick to more environmentally conscious choices with the disposables I choose.

I believe in natural, gentle discipline. I believe a child will get more out of guidance than fear based punishment. I want my children to understand why they shouldn’t do something, not just fear being punished.

I believe in homeschooling. I want my children to be able to think for themselves and not just become another sheep in the mind controlled flock.

Notice I say “I believe” at the beginning of all of my parenting choices. These are my opinions. I don’t try to force them on anyone. If someone asks me about something though, I will volunteer my opinions and the research behind them.

I really don’t understand what exactly he disagrees with. He won’t say specifically what. His response was simply everything on my Facebook page. I’m not a neglectful parent, I don’t spank my child. I try to present him with as many possibilities as I  can to learn something new. Somehow though, this is unacceptable. I just don’t understand it.

I know I am sorta crunchy, but I am proud of that. It is who I am. I will never deny myself the right to be who I am.